Tomorrow, April 11, our incredible co-leader Holly gets married. For those of you not in the know, she and Jack changed our first “Hell Week” into “Heaven Week” when Jack proposed to her in the pouring rain, which was great because it masked me crying like a baby (I love love!)
So it was a propos that on the day before they say “I do” that we celebrated their love with a “Going to the Chapel” workout for them. Complete with bridal burpees, groom glute bridges, Holly hoistees, and jumping Jacks.
Holly, Jack – This was a team effort. Many people contributed to putting this together – from getting the materials we used, to helping formulate the workout, and putting together the playlist. The love and admiration people have for you is insurmountable, and I hope that shows.
So I wanted to do something fun for you as part of your wedding. I asked people to send in their advice for newlyweds, whether completely serious, or lighthearted, to share with the couple as they begin their life together.
As said by the most impressive of clergymen in the oft-seen documentary, The Princess Bride, “Mawwiage is wat bwings us togedder today. Mawwiage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam wifin a dream… And wuv, twue wuv, will fowwow you foweva… So tweasure your wuv.”
But seriously, without further ado, here’s what your friends, family, peers, strangers, and the internet have to say as advice for newly married couples.
- Always have fun.
- Always kiss each other good night.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff.
- Quietly rearrange the dishwasher if you don’t like how the other loads it.
- If you don’t like how the other folds your clothes, fold them yourself.
- No expectations.
- Have fun.
- Keep running together.
- Never stop having sex. Like really, don’t. Act like it’s the first time every time. Enjoy each other and keep the love alive!
- Always carry wet naps on long runs
- Make a glass of ice water when your partners goes on a run in the summer so it’s ready when they get back
- Couples massages
- Assume positive intentions
- Speak yo’ pahtners love language
- It’s ok to not be ok.
- Agree on conflict resolution techniques
- Agree on financials, goals, accounts, savings, etc.
- The best time to start saving was 20 years ago. The second best time is right now.
- Take a few minutes every day to sit face-to-face, holding hands and really connect with each other.
- Laugh. Cry. Celebrate. Share. Explore. Communicate.
- Make an effort to go to bed at the same time.
- Life gets in the way, for sure, but the taking time to end the day with at least a cuddle and kiss goodnight really helps keeps you connected and feeling like you’re in it together.
- You can’t expect marriage to be perfect all the time, but trust in your love for each other. You’ll have moments where things are difficult, but the promise of marriage comes with the time to continue to work on your relationship. If you continue to care about your partner and trust in them, you’ll be reminded how lucky you are to have found someone who understands and complements you.
- Keep doing stuff for you! You love something? Keep doing it! Support each other’s crazy adventures but if you don’t love it, don’t feel like you have to do it with the other person.
- Always make time for each other. I know this sounds cliché, but it truly matters. You cannot grow a garden without time, effort, love, and tenderness. This world we live in is CRAZY, you must carve out a sacred space that is just for the two of you. A place where you are safe and loved and guard this place like your life depends on it, because, well it does. This life you are building together absolutely depends on it.
- Laugh with each other, like, a lot. When it gets hard, when it gets stressful, when you just want to scream, remember how freaking funny y’all are! You two have such amazing energy–feed off that. Step back, take a breather, and do something silly. It’s amazing how a little laughter can not only shake off the hard stuff, but it brings you closer.
- Make sure you have your own stuff. You both were complete, beautiful individuals before you met. Don’t forget that. You don’t have to do everything together simply because you’re a married couple now. Those people, those adventures, those hobbies you had before you met are still really valuable. Nurture those–it’s good for your soul, which is good for your relationship.
- Date your spouse. As days turn into years, it is so easy to focus on just getting through the week or month that we go into “survival mode.” Date your spouse. Do something little: leave a note, send a sweet text, do the household chore they hate doing. Take time to chat. Remember what got you to this day.
- Seek out new experiences to share with each other–go somewhere new, try something new, build something new. There are so very many things to explore in life–so go find something spectacular and make some amazing memories.
- But most of all, just love on each other. Value each other, respect each other, never forget why you completely fell for each other. You are now each other’s person, and that is pretty freaking awesome.
- Always work to find common ground. Understand the vantage point of one another. Hold each other accountable and always fight fair. Do your very best to never go to bed angry. At each other or at someone or something else. Just check in with each other at random points. Keep running. Keep building memories on top of memories. Keep spreading positivity. We run marathons because of the hard work needed to complete one. Marriage can be a lot like a marathon. It’s work. It is unequivocally worth the work and the best work you will ever do. Best of luck to two beautiful people inside and out.
- Never drink beer from a Styrofoam cup
- Never trust a man in a boat alone
- Couples that Sebastian together stay together!
- For Jack: Holly is ALWAYS right. Really. Every single time. That’s pretty much it.
- For Holly: Remember that Jack loves you more than his Kendama, even if he doesn’t always show it
- For the lovely couple: start and end each day with love and kindness for one another. Support one another in your endeavors and also challenge one another to be the best versions of yourselves. Be true, equal partners in all facets of love, life, and training. May your love for one another always hit a new PR
- Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
- Always remember that you’re a team!
Have any additional advice? Leave them in the comments!!
4/13 – Newport Marathon/Half Marathon – if you’re running, CRUSH IT! If you’re not – go cheer! Our friends from November Project Newport will have a cheer station at the 1.5/10 mile marker – wear your grassroots gear and go make some noise!
4/15 – Boston Marathon! – a small little race in Boston with definitely no hype behind it. Except…..join November Project Boston that morning at 6:29am at the Chestnut Hill Reservoir (Cleveland Circle) for their annual workout, then head to mile 18 to cheer on the runners (including our own Meghan MacDonald!) It’s the best way to spend the best day in New England – be there!
4/17 – NP PVD workout – State House Steps – Mom is away, so you’re stuck with Steve next week. And he lets you have candy for breakfast probably. So be there, 5:27 and 6:27am. It’ll be dope.
4/19 – NP Woo Pop Up! Greene St, Worcester – 6:20am. Join the caravan and head up to the Woo to experience an awesome workout in the city that stole our PawSox. They WILL be tagging, so make your Good Friday a great Friday, and join us in Worcester!
4/21 – Easter Sunday Pop Up – Waterplace Park Basin. Join us for our second annual Easter Egg Hunt! A family friendly event, so bring out the kiddos, and get some family fitness!
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